RELATIONSHIPS: Psychology of Breaking Up

RELATIONSHIPS: Psychology of Breaking Up

Psychotherapist Matthew Dempsey speaks about how to effectively figure out when it’s time to move on from a relationship and how to do it in the name of love. He describes how we can know where our stuff ends and our partner’s begins as well as the unique challenges that can come up for gay men to draw the distinction.


February 3, 2015 / 32 Comments / by / in
  • Adorable! 🙂

  • Agreed: Goodbye can be the greatest act of love, though it is very difficult!!

  • thanks for the vid. its really good

  • Thank you, Thank you, Thank You. I needed to hear this 🙂

  • no relationships ever work for me

  • Dear Matthew L.Dempsey..I LOVE YOU TO THE MOON AND BACK

  • I love this guy. lol

  • Amazing!

  • Thanks for the video, I was already getting tired of all the psychobabble out there. I for one, didn’t want to forget my ex. At first I did, but then after further talking to Lyle he got my attention about googling Treitan Mellory’s website, it wasn’t magic, but since then we’re back together, and forgetting her was the first step.

  • that's the dumbest tie i've ever seen

  • That actually helped me. Thank you.

  • Thank you so much .

  • The last line was hard to listen to… 🙁
    Thank you.

  • I think this was very informative I want to leave her but I want the baby to have both parents. She can see I'm unhappy but as long as I'm around she's fine with it. I dont know what to do.

  • Cc

    You are so positive, wow ! I'm out of a very long relationship.  We fell in love but he became very abusive, then I lost both my parents in a short space of time. He knew I was alone without my parents and when I should have been grieving his temper escalated. I stuck it out because he made me so low and he was all I knew. I loved him I hoped he would change but he never did.  I finally left him and have recently discovered he was a serial cheat as well.   I  work in a hospital and I'm surrounded by good strong people but inside  I feel completely humiliated and hurt. I work every hour god sends to keep my mind busy and to avoid having a social life and meeting people. In  work I'm medically professional around men but in a social environment I am a nervous wreck.  I just want to be normal and find love but I cant move on,  he is dead to me but some things are hard to forget.      how can i trust a person again ?  love seems hopeless

  • mind blown.

  • this helps me alot thanks alot

  • You're are wonderful human being and my theory of most cute guys being gay is proved now !! Lol

    Have a great journey , dude !!

  • hello!! m also in a messed up relationship for 7 years as my boyfriend is overly obsessive and has a everyday conflict about being honest in an relationship..had lot to share…but hope you understood

  • Wow! Great suggestions and information to take in. I'm feeling a little more Zen now.

  • it's hard when you're working so hard at a relationship and the other isn't. it's like giving up a lot of investment of timecard energy to end it. but the more it continues the harder it will be.

  • how can i be sure your advice is solid?
    you dont know what it is like to be in a heterosexual relationship.

  • my ex never resisted his buttons being pressed, he took it, as you say, as incompatibility signs, and chose the easy way out and left. He envisioned an idealized relationship living in unicorn land where everything is "yes dear", that's not a meaningful way to a deep relationship, if you only want the good times and never being challenged about your beliefs and thoughts on life. No room for expansion or growth that way. Coward

  • We are so alike!

  • thank you soo much!

  • thank you for this, it is really helping me cope with my breakup.

  • This Helped me alot this amazing advice

  • Just broke up with my bf, I feel terrible.

  • Really appreciate your video. THANKYOU

  • Just a quick correction…"back in the day" relationships weren't created from love. it was the parents decided who they were going to marry. So what killed long term relationships is love itself.

  • I have to break up with the father of my daughter and I have no idea how. We were on and off for 7 years now and nothing changed its just dead we are stuck. We are getting older and we just exhaust each others energy. But how am I supposed to tell that.

  • Wow best advice I've heard all year!

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